He or she who has the greatest capacity for discomfort rises the fastest.
I’d recently caught up with my life coach/Psychologist who was breaking down the pieces of my depression. Still only a month ago it was still grabbing me by the hair, trying to pull me back down. I also noticed that even while I was away in Croatia for the summer, nothing was making me happy, I just wanted to stay alone in the apartment and watch the fun from afar.
“What’s the difference between how you are feeling this year to how you were 12 months ago?” She asked.
“This year I’m not suicidal. I think this is the point I need to emphasise most. It doesn’t even cross my mind while last year I had to fight with myself to convince myself to keep myself alive.” We can go into details about my healthier habits in another post in the future.
It’s taken me a while to get comfortable with exposing a certain level of vulnerability through my shame in loss of self and identity. There is one name that has been synonymous in pushing me to get comfortable with my perceived failure which in fact is just my courage to live outside my comfort zone and be authentically myself. Brené Brown is a shame and vulnerability expert who touched my heart with a TedTalk that went viral. Anytime I feel like shit, giving up or at crossroads whether or not I should share something personal, I put on this one TedTalk and in twenty minutes I’m reminded that vulnerability is not weakness and I must stop listening to my shame.
She’s back with her third New York Times Best Seller, Rising Strong and sitting on Chase Jarvis’s couch talking about all the obstacles creative’s face in their pursuit to greatness, perfecting their art and fulfilment if I may add. This book is the toolkit to “get back up” and try again or continue soldiering on.
Two. | On Failure.
If you’re brave enough, often enough-
You’re going to fail. The only people who don’t fail are the ones who never put anything out in the world, people who never ever step foot. They’ll never fail.
Three. | On Creativity.
Unused creativity, creativity that has been disowned is not benign- it’s painful.
Four. | Dealing With Pain.
We are much better at inflicting pain than feeling pain. We are much better at causing hurt than feeling hurt.
Five. | Those Stories We Make Up About Ourselves
There is nothing more profoundly dangerous than the stories we make up about our creativity, our lovability and divinity. Just because someone didn’t understand our value on something I created doesn’t change it’s worth or my worth.
Six. | A Strong Creative Mindset
I’m the author of my life and I will decide how it ends, I think creative do that everyday.
Seven. | The Message To Her 25 Year Old Self
All the people pleasing and people proving is getting in the way. You will never live the life you want to live and without disappointing people.
Eight. | To Be or Not To Be… Yourself?
You’re going to piss some people, you’re going to let some people down if you’re yourself.
Nine. | Your Unique Gift.
You’ve got something that only you can uniquely bring to the world and if you keep trying to keep people around you happy while you bring it- You will not bring it and not utilizing your gift is dangerous.
Ten. | On Life Experience in Darkness
The only thing experience gives you is a little grace that whispers in your ear, ‘You’ve been in the dark before, you know your way through. Stay in the dark.’
Eleven. | Define Integrity.
I have a very simple definition for integrity. It is choosing courage over comfort. It’s choosing what’s right over what’s fun right or easy. It’s practicing your values and not just professing them.
Twelve. | Being Comfortable With your Personal Development
When we really feel comfortable with our growth, we can really understand how that can freak people out sometimes.
Bravery & Authenticity in a Digital World /w Brené Brown | Chase Jarvis LIVE
Watch the full conversation here
What are some of your favourite Brene Brown quotes?
I’ll end this post with mine:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”0